How The 80/20 Rule Can Help You Manage Your Expectations For Happier Relationships

Concepts using the 80/20 ratio are nothing new, from the Pareto Principle of economics to the 80/20 diet plan, and the fraction can be applied to romance too. According to the 80/20 rule, you can expect 80% of your relationship needs and wishes to be fulfilled, while you won't get what you want the other 20% of the time.

The rule echoes what relationship researcher Dr. John Gottman calls "good enough" relationships. These relationships aren't perfect, though they're still healthy and loving. There may be arguments and even unresolvable conflicts at times, but these issues don't get in the way of building a long-lasting, thriving life together as a couple.

Following an 80/20 ratio can bring a healthy balance to perfectionistic idealism and make way for "good enough" love. "I believe the 80/20 rule is a very consistent part of reality, and that bringing our expectations into alignment with reality is healthy," Hannah Green, a psychotherapist who works with couples, told StyleCaster, adding, "Realistic expectations result in less stress, more self-esteem, and better relationships."