Things Men Say That Make Women Feel Insecure

In the beginning of a relationship, it's natural to pull out all the stops when you're picking what to wear. But when you've been with your partner for awhile, and especially if you live with him, you may wear sweatpants and t-shirts more often than not. If your partner comments on your dress, it can make you feel like you're less desirable because you've allowed yourself to relax and wear what makes you feel comfortable.

Heller told me, "When a man makes this comment, a woman can take it as a rejection of her style, her need for modesty or an implied demand to be more provocative so as to be interesting and desirable."

That said, this doesn't mean a man can never mention the way his woman dresses. Heller elaborated, "If a man playfully requests that his partner dress in a way that evokes his passion, while complimenting her intrinsic appeal and beauty, this wish for her to dress sexy becomes contextual not absolutist."